Wednesday, July 13, 2005


Ayahs of the Day:
Believers, stand firm when you meet an army, and remember God often, that you may be successful. And obey God and God's messenger, and do not dispute with each other, lest you lose heart and your power leaves you; but be patient, for God is with the patient. [8: 45, 46]

Hadith of the Day:
Allah will show no mercy to those who do not show mercy to others. [Bukhari & Muslim]

Wise Quote of the Day:
There is no virtue in not voicing good judgment, just as there is no virtue in speaking ignorantly. [Ali radi Allah anhu]

Guidance of the Day:
Knowing that our brains are wired in various and highly individualized ways allows us to be more compassionate and tolerant toward ourselves and others. It helps us to build better relationships through understanding and accepting our differences.

If we want to form solid, emotionally satisfying relationships with others, we must learn to manage these differences. We must learn to compromise. Understanding emotional command system gives us a framework to do just that. Whether we like it or not, life is filled with opportunities either to celebrate or bemoan our differences with other people. Conflicts can arise from our contrasting comfort levels.

Conflicts can also come up between two people who are driven in the same direction within an operating system. In addition, clashes can arise when people are operating from totally different, highly activated systems that are at odds with one another. The connection can succeed if the pair acknowledges their differences and makes room for compromise. Sometimes it's the bidder who makes the difference; sometimes it's the respondent. The bid succeeds and the relationship is enhanced when people realize they're approaching the issue from different perspectives and they need to find some middle ground.

Food for Thought:
When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the air plane takes off against the wind, not with it. There is no vulture than despair.

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