Saturday, July 09, 2005


Ayahs of the Day:
But God would not punish them while you were in their midst; and God would not punish them while they sought forgiveness. But what excuse do they have that God should not punish them for blocking entry to the sacred mosque, when they are not its guardians? Its guardians are only the conscientious, but most of them do not know. [8: 33, 34]

Hadith of the Day:
Learn your genealogies and maintain your family ties. By Allah, there may be something between one brother and another. But if they were to realize what is truly between them, that in itself would suffice to prevent them from breaking off relations with one another. [Bukhari]

Wise Quote of the Day:
In the Torah are written five lessons - wealth is in contentment, safety is in seclusion, dignity is in rejecting desires, enjoyment is in long days (in the Hereafter), and patience is in few days (in the dunya) [Hasan al Basri]

Guidance of the Day:
Conflicts are inevitable whenever people come together around common activities or goals. How you express your position in a conflict makes a tremendous difference in your ability to connect with others.

Here's the basic rule of thumb: Complain when you must, but don't criticize. What's the difference? A complaint focuses on a specific problem, addressing the other person's behavior, not his or her perceived character flaws. Criticism, on the other hand, is more judgmental and global; it frequently includes phrases as "you always . . ." or "you never . . . " Criticism attacks the other person's character, often with negative labels or name-calling. It often assigns blame.

Complaints can be difficult to say or hear at times. But they're generally worth the trouble because they help people to understand one another and to solve problems. Criticism, however, does just the opposite. It hurt's people's feelings, leading to increased tension, resentment, and defensiveness in relationships. People don't communicate well when they feel defensive. They tend to shut out new information. They're not open doors to others' influence. All this gets in the way of emotional connection. [The Relationship Cure]

Food for Thought:
To be happy we must not be concerned about others. The greatest remedy for anger is delay. To forget the wrong is the best revenge. Kindness effects more than severity.

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