Friday, July 08, 2005

LESSON OF THE DAY 253

Ayahs of the Day:
When Our signs are recited to them, they say, "we've heard. If we wanted, we could say something similar, for these are just myths of the ancients." And they have said, "O God, if this is the truth from You, then shower stones on us from the sky, or visit us with a painful affliction. [8: 31, 32]


Hadith of the Day:
A true maintainer of family ties is not one who seeks reciprocation. Rather, a true maintainer of family ties is one who, if his/her ties are ignored, will continue to maintain them anyway. [Bukhari]


Wise Quote of the Day:
Do not involve yourself in anything other than absolutely necessary things and real discernible things/needs. Organize your devotional practices and you will find your time extended due to the baraka (blessings) in it. [Ahmad al Zarruq]


Guidance of the Day:
Another solution when things have gone awry is to revisit the episode with that person later on. You can begin by saying something like, "I feel bad about the short conversation we had yesterday. I didn't handle it very well. So I want to say I am sorry and I'd like to make things better between us." Ofcourse, you have to gauge how receptive the other person might be to this. I believe that most friends, siblings, spouses, and kids are responsive to such attempts at fixing failed bids.

In fact, children often benefit greatly from parent's willingness to admit errors. It gives children permission to make mistakes without feeling bad about themselves.

Colleagues at work may also be open to genuine attempt to repair miscommunication, particularly if you already share a high level of trust. But if your bonds with coworkers aren't that strong, be cautious. They may or may not view your attempt to revisit and fix the interaction as appropriate. [The Relationship Cure]


Food for Thought:
Wisdom is that the words and deeds and opinions are right at their place, and also knowing the depth of things. A wise person changes his mind, a fool never does.

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