Monday, July 04, 2005

LESSON OF THE DAY 249

Ayah of the Day:
Believers, respond to God and the messenger when they call you to what will give you life. And know that God comes between a man and his heart, and that it is to God that you will be gathered. [8: 24]

Hadith of the Day:
Those who are conscious of their Lord and maintain family ties will have increase in their age and their wealth, and their family will love them. [Bukhari]

Wise Quote of the Day:
Examine your soul constantly in matters that you are obliged to do or in need to be done. Anything that you are in no need of doing, leave it. [Ahmad al Zarruq]

Guidance of the Day:
Brothers and sisters who turn toward one another in conversation are more likely to maintain close, supportive, satisfying relationships. Turning toward one another's sense of humor in everyday situations----bolsters your relationships while making life together a lot of fun. The more you can tap into each other's sense of humor and joy, the stronger your relationship becomes.

But if you want to build a solid, long term relationships, you've got to be willing to turn toward each other's bids in all sorts of circumstances. That's why marriage vows include phrases like "for better or worse." That's why people shun the idea of a "fair-weather friend." We long for relationships with people who will stick by us even when we're tired, crabby, fearful, depressed, or frustrated.

The less people turn toward one another, the less satisfying their relationships are. If you want to build a deeper emotional connection with somebody, turn toward that person as often as you can. You typically have more chances to turn toward your child than toward a work colleague, for example. And opportunities for turning toward a spouse are usually more abundant than for turning toward an adult sibling. But in general, if you can turn toward any significant person in your life--even when you are angry, frustrated, complaining, or sad-----your relationship will grow stronger. Then, if you face a time when turning toward one another is impossible, the goodwill you've accumulated will be enough to see you through to better times. [The Relationship Cure]

Food for Thought:

The one who seeks faults in others is faulty himself. He who is in mud likes to pull another into it. If you were someone else, would you want to be friends with you?

2 comments:

Sharmeen Shamsi said...

Assalamualaikum, Iffat Auntie
I really liked today's guidance of the day. Thank you so much. May Allah continue to bless your time.

Mariam Mohammad said...

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