Monday, May 28, 2018

Reformation of family life -- 3

Islamic Upbringing of Children

These are summary of lecture series @ Islamic Center of Fremont, CA
by Mufti Muddassir Owais.

1. Parents must make an effort to understand their children well.
Each child is different.

2. Don't reprimand elder kids in front of younger kids.

3. Try to find out root cause for everything that might seem wrong
in your children. Ponder over where that came from.

4. Talk to children to understand where the bad habits are coming
from.

5. Talk at the level of the child.

6. Have at least one meal together as a family.

7. Talk to have a conversation during meal.

8. Try to instill the love of Allah, the love of the Prophet (peace
and blessings upon him), and the love of the family of the Prophet.

9. Teach the children to ponder and meditate over:
Allah is with me, Allah is watching me, Allah is present with me.

10. Parents should realize that their children are a blessing as
well as a test for them.

11. Increase shukr and sabr, make your life an example, improve
relationship with each other, correct the environment at home
through kindness, love and respect for each other.

May Almighty Allah make it easy and grant us success, ameen.

Sunday, May 06, 2018

Reformation of Family Life -- 2

Islamic Upbringing of Children

These are summary of lecture series @ Islamic Center of Fremont, CA
by Mufti Muddassir Owais.

1. Bring those qualities in yourself that you want to see in your children.

2. Bring excellence of those qualities in yourself, become a role model.
This is an important and basic rule.

3. Take guidance from seerah of the Prophet (peace and blessings
upon him).

4. Give lots of love, balance softness with reprimanding.

5. Make a lot of dua along with regular sadaqa, never ever despair.

6. Make dua at tahajjud time. Do nafl fast and make dua for your
children -- these are the times when duas are answered.

7. Give your children the proper Islamic environment.

8. Parents should respect each other and teach the children to
respect their parents, teachers, elders and each other.

9. Parents must never contradict each other.

10. Parents and teachers need to have a lot of patience.