Wednesday, December 29, 2010

LESSON OF THE DAY 1254

Ayahs of the Day:
And We showed him (man) the two highways: but he has not braved the steep road. And what will convey to you what the steep road is? Emancipation of a slave, or feeding on a day of hunger an orphaned relative or a destitute pauper. Then one will be of those who believe and practice patience and practice kindness. They are the company of the right. And as for those who scoff at Our signs, they are the company of the left: there will be fire enclosing them. [90: 10 to 20]

Hadith of the Day:
Faith wears out in the hearts of anyone of you just as clothes wear out, so ask Allah to renew the faith in your heart. [Tabarani]

Wise Quote of the Day:
Taqwa is not praying during the night and fasting during the day and mixing between permissible and impermissible. But Taqwa is to fulfill what Allah has obligated and to avoid what Allah has forbidden. If in addition to that, there are some (good voluntary) deeds, it is goodness upon goodness. [Omar ibn Abdul Azeez]

Guidance of the Day:
Don't sweat the little quirks. In some ways, it's no wonder that the people you live with can drive you crazy with their little quirks. You know, the way someone eats, uses utensils, breathes, flits her hair, jiggles his legs or whatever. Let's face it. There isn't a person alive who doesn't have his or her share of irritating quirks. And if you were really honest, I'll bet you'd admit to having a few of your own. But despite these innocent quirks, I'll bet you're really a nice person. The point is we are all human. To be human is to have quirks. Big deal!

You really have two options when it comes to dealing with quirks. You can continue to be critical of, and be bothered by the little quirks that exist in your household. Or you can choose to see the innocence and humor that is inherent in virtually all quirks. After all, no one wants annoying quirks to be part of his or her personal makeup -- we certainly don't set to create them! They develop unintentionally and continue out of pure habit.

Why not make the decision to make those little quirks a little less relevant? Doing so is huge relief. You will no longer have to spend mental energy reminding yourself how irritated you are -- therefore feeling the effects of that irritation. And you'll find that when you're more forgiving and accepting of everyone else, it's far easier to be easier on yourself. So, starting today, whatever "small stuff" around the house bugs you, see if you can let it go! You will be so much happier as a result. [Carlson, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff -- with your family]

Food for Thought:
Marriage was instituted by God Himself for the purpose of preventing promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for promoting domestic felicity, and for securing the maintenance and security of children. The sanctity of marriage and the family relation make the corner-stone of our society. One should believe in marriage as in the immortality of the soul. Where there is marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.

3 comments:

MuslimFirst said...

Jazak'Allahu Khairan Sr. Iffath, as always. I hope this finds you well and that the family is well, as this new year has started (1432) and as the Gregorian new year also approaches. I am following your posts via Twitter as well now, so haven't missed "A Lesson" but just been busy, but I love commenting too. :-)

iffath said...

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah brother, may this year bring all the blessings for us from our Creator, ameen. My family is also doing well, please keep us all in your duas. I also enjoy reading your comments, but I am glad you are able to follow the lessons via Twitter.
May Allah give you success in all your endeavors, ameen.

MuslimFirst said...

Wa alaikum as salaam wa rahamatullahi wa barakatuhu Sr. Iffath/Iffath-ji!!!

Itna khushi mila jab aapka jawab mila mujko,m kahin ganta pehle! Aur jab meyne parha ke aap mere comments pasand ayein, aur bhi khushi mila! Mey kya bholoon, jab aapka blog partha hoon, mey thora bura feel kartha hoon kyoon ke jantha hoon ke mujko boht cheez ko, Islam ke mamle mein, Muslim bane mein, boht zyaada acha karna hai. Magar, thora waqt ke baad, mey khud ko bholtha hoon, ke "Mey karsakhtha hoon."

Insha'allah, aap meri Urdu samaj sakthi hain :-)

Kehna chatha tha ke aaj ki lesson mein, "food for Thought" boht pasand ayaa; kyoon ke shaadi mere demagh mein hai aaj-kaal. Mey 29 saal ke hoon *blush* aur ab thak kuch baath nahin hui, magar shay'd thora waqt mein, yeh badalgayga.

OK, will switch to English now.

Of course, each portion of the lessons, both the Lessons and Pearls of Widsom are so very helpful and I almost wish non-Muslims could read some of the quotes, especially those by Hs. Ali (RA) that you've posted often in recent times, which are just so beautiful, as well as the others you post (Jilani I think is one Sheik that I remember)

Actually, I read most of your posts via the Yahoo group, which I joined some time ago, so that is my main source. I am sure all the other members read every lesson as well.

Indeed, I will keep your family in my du'as. I request the same, as insha'allah, in June/July I will be graduating from medical school (I attend school overseas in Europe, but am currently home). It's been hard for my Amma, as we lost my Abba in 2001, so please keep her in your thoughts as well, as I'm sure you can imagine what she is going through in at least as far as a mother goes.

Anyways, I'm deeply touched that your wrote back. I know you must be so busy with other things in life. I do remember in your interview that you link to on the site, that you do mention that you read the comments, but to write back means a lot to me. Jazak'Allahu Khairan.

Br. Anees
from Portland, Oregon