Monday, August 01, 2005


Ayah of the Day:
Believers, do not take your fathers, and your brothers for protectors if they prefer atheism to faith. Those of you who choose them are the ones who are in the wrong. [9: 23]

Hadith of the Day:
Do good and shun evil. Consider what your ears would like to hear said of you by people after you have left their company, and then do that. Consider what your ears would not like to hear said of you by people after you have left their company, and avoid doing that. [Bukhari]

Wise Quote of the Day:
He who desires honor in this world should not make his needs known to anyone in the creation, nor should he seek out faults of anyother. [Bishr Hafi]

Guidance of the Day:
Use your child's expression of feelings as an opportunity for intimacy or teaching. When your child opens to you with expression of fear, sadness, or anger, try to validate those feelings by saying that you understand why he or she might feel this way. Then work with your child to solve the problem that's causing the sadness, anger, or fear.

Understand that emotions can be extremely intense for children. That's because they lack the life experience that teaches, "This too shall pass." They may not understand that the sadness, fear, or anger they are feeling is not going to last for ever. So, when you talk to kids about their feelings, don't underestimate or dismiss the intensity of what they are going through. If you do, you may blow an important opportunity to connect with them.

Notice, validate, and name your child's emotions. Help your child to find words for what he or she is feeling. Then, without dismissing the feelings, offer some guidance on how to cope. Set limits on behavior, all emotions are acceptable, but some behaviors are not. [The Relationship Cure]

Food for Thought:
The test of good manners is to be patient with bad ones. Friends of Allah are those who are generous, they do not hold grudges in their hearts and they have good opinions of the slaves of Allah.

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