Monday, January 31, 2011


Ayahs of the Day:
By the fig and the olive and Mount Sinai, and this secure city, We have made man in the finest order; then We return him to the lowest of the low, except those who believe and do good works -- for them there's reward without end. So what can belie you, henceforth, regarding the Judgment? Isn't God the wisest of judges? [95: 1 to 8]

Hadith of the Day:
It is sufficient evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. [Bukhari & Muslim]

Wise Quote of the Day:
Move you heart with the Qur'an. If you do not, then it is feared that it may be moved instead by its lowly passions and its desires for fleeting worldly pleasures; and even worse by sins. [Shaykh Fadhl]

Guidance of the Day:
Become less easily bothered. The payback for becoming less easily bothered is monumental! Your stress level will be reduced. You'll be more accepting of the people and events in life. You have far more fun and will become more interested in, and interested to, other people. You will be a better role model to your family and friends. You'll be less reactive.

You see life less as a burden and more as an adventure. You'll be less tired and irritated. You'll turn your ordinary life into an extraordinary experience. The truth is, being bothered is no fun. It's a huge distraction to a quality life and the ultimate expression of sweating the small stuff. Plus, it's a real turnoff to other people. [Carlson, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff -- with your family]

Food for Thought:
Blessed to us is the night, for it reveals the stars. Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seamed with scars; and through their tears have the sorrowful first seen the gates of heaven. The soul would have no rainbow had the eye no tears. We are never ripe till we have been made so by suffering.

Friday, January 28, 2011

Pearls of wisdom 291

1. Decrease in one's speech brings wisdom.

2. Decrease in one's food brings health.

3. Decrease in one's sleep brings worship -- tahajjud.

4. Decrease in one's meeting with the common folk brings safety.

5. Lofty stations are attained only through humility.

6. Jihad is victorious only through God given success.

6. Worldly honor may be through wealth, but heavenly honor is certainly through works.

7. Death -- a single words contains within it every goodly advice.

8. The Most Generous One only humiliates him who humiliates himself through persistent wickedness.

9. No matter how correct it may be, one should still strengthen one's opinion through consulting others.

10. It is not through his prayers nor fasts, rather, a person's measure is through how he deals with others, the compassion he shows his fellow men, his wisdom and his integrity. [Above quotes by Omar radi Allah anhu]

Wednesday, January 26, 2011


Ayahs of the Day:
Haven't We expanded your chest for you, and removed your burden from you, which weighed heavily on your back, and raised your repute for you? So with distress there is relief. Indeed, relief comes with distress. So when you are done, still be prepared; and direct your request to your Lord. [94: 1 to 8]

Hadith of the Day:
Whoever Allah wishes good for, He gives profound understanding of religion. [Bukhari & Muslim]

Wise Quote of the Day:
The wise man knows the only fitting price for the soul is a place in Paradise. [Ibn Hazm]

Guidance of the Day:
Remember, actions speak louder than words! I believe that this bit of wisdom is always important to keep in mind, but never more so than at home. Yet, as often as most of us have heard it, how many of us live our lives as if we knew that it were true? What we say may be important, but not nearly as important as what we do.

One of the most obvious places where this wisdom takes form is our decision as to how we spend our time. There are hundreds of things you can do, little daily choices you can make. It all adds up. Every positive choice that you make reinforces the love in your family and decreases any resentment, disappointment, or sadness that might have developed over time. The specific choices you make are up to you. My goal here is to remind you that you are the choice maker. With a little reflection, I will bet you can make at least one loving choice today that can make a world of difference in the quality of your life at home. [Carlson, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff -- with your family]

Food for Thought:
Big things are accomplished one step at a time. If you only keep adding little by little, it will soon become a big heap. Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together. Many strokes overthrow the tallest oak.

Monday, January 24, 2011

Pearls of wisdom 290

1. The strength in one's resolve is that one does not leave for tomorrow what one can do today.

2. Know that it is with ilm (knowledge) that you must speak, and that it is with hilm (forbearance) that you must remain silent.

3. Iman is that one recognizes the One True God in the depths of his heart, and confirms it with his tongue, and acts upon the Divine Prescriptions of Shariah.

4. Covetousness is poverty regardless of how rich one is.

5. Detachment is wealth regardless of how poor one is.

6. Not wanting vengeance is patience regardless if one was wronged or not.

7. Doing good for a good done to you is simply repayment, whereas doing good for an evil done to you is a tremendous virtue.

8. When both the lawful and the prohibited are present in a thing, it is its prohibited aspect which will always be most prominent.

9. If there is fear that even a tenth is haram then our way is to leave even the remaining nine tenths, though they be halal

10. Three things increase love among you:
a. Greeting one another with peace (salaam).
b. Giving up one's seat to another in gatherings.
c. Addressing one by that which he likes. [Above quotes by Omar radi Allah anhu]

Friday, January 21, 2011


Ayahs of the Day:
By the morning, bright, and the night when it is calm, your Lord has not left you, and is not incensed: hereafter will be better for you than what was before; your Lord will surely give to you, and you will be content. Did God not find you orphaned and give shelter? And God found you wandering and gave guidance. And God found you needy and gave sufficiency. So don't oppress the orphan, and don't rebuff the seeker. And tell of the kindness of your Lord. [93: 1 to 11]

Hadith of the Day:
All of the children of Adam err, and the best of those who err are the oft repenting. [Tirmidhi]

Wise Quote of the Day:
The righteous deeds are performed by the righteous and the wicked. However, only the truthful ones avoid the sinful deeds. [Sahl ibn Abdullah al-Tustari]

Guidance of the Day:
It puts things into perspective when we remind ourselves that life wasn't meant to be hassle-free or perfect, we are more able to respond to our challenges with perspective and grace. Rather than being annoyed or overwhelmed by every little thing, we're usually able to say something like "Oh, well, here's another one to deal with."

I doubt very much that any of us will get to the point where we enjoy the inherent hassles of life, but I'm certain that we can learn to be far more accepting. And, as you can imagine, the less you struggle with your problems and challenges, the more energy you have at your disposal to solve them. Rather than exacerbating the issues you are dealing with, you'll see the bigger picture, including the possible solutions at hand.

Reminding yourself of the inevitability of problems to deal with won't make your life perfect, but it will put things in a healthier perspective and make life seem a whole lot less overwhelming. Starting right now, see if you can view your current problem in a new light. You might discover that at least the "small stuff" can be experienced with a great deal of serenity. [Carlson, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff -- with your family]

Food for Thought:
Our greatest enemies are not wild beasts or deadly germs but fears that paralyze thought, poison the mind, and destroy the character. Our only protection against fear is faith. Fear is faithlessness. Have you ever taken your fears to God, got the horizons of Eternity about them, looked at them in the light of His love and grace?

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Pearls of wisdom 289

1. Taking pains to remove the pains of others is the true essence of generosity.

2. The heart is dead, but its living again lies in knowledge.

3. Knowledge too is dead, but its living again lies in seeking after it.

4. Erase old sins with new virtues.

5. He who busies himself in Lord's work, finds the Lord busy in his work.

6. The amount of knowledge which suffices the believer is that which keeps him in awe of the Divine.

7. The sole root of man's misery is his flapping his lips -- talking unnecessarily.

8. The seeker of deen increases in action through his knowledge, whereas the seeker of dunya increases only in information.

9. Man knows that he is weak, yet how strange that he continues to disobey the One Who is strongest of all.

10. Wretched is the one who dies, and his inequity lives on. [Above quotes by Abu Bakr radi Allah anhu]

Monday, January 17, 2011


Ayahs of the Day:
Guidance is up to Us: and the end and the beginning belong to Us: so I warn you of a raging fire where none will roast but the most wretched, those who deny truth and turn away. But the most conscientious will be kept from it; those who give of their wealth to become pure without any favor to be repaid to anyone, only seeking the acceptance of their supreme Lord; and they will be satisfied. [92: 12 to 21]

Hadith of the Day:
In the evening, do not wait for morning, and in the morning, do not wait for evening. Take from your health for your weakness, and from your life for your death. [Bukhari]

Wise Quote of the Day:
Do not think evil of anything that comes from your Muslim brother's tongue -- whenever there is a way to interpret it in a good way. [Omar radi Allah anhu]

Guidance of the Day:
Ask yourself "Why should I be exempt from the rest of the human race?" Life is full of challenges, obstacles, hurdles, setbacks, difficulties, hassles, and problems -- for all of us. No one is exempt. Regardless of what background, race, religion, or sex -- regardless of what kind of parents you had, your birth order, how much money or notoriety you have, all the other specifics of your life -- you will have problems. Case closed.

It's always easier to see your own problems than those of others, and it's certainly true that some problems appear to be far more severe than others, but the truth is, ultimately no one's life is particularly easy, at least not all the time. The old saying is still true, as it will be forever. Circumstances don't make a person, they reveal him or her. [Carlson, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff -- with your family]

Food for Thought:
Nothing worthwhile comes easily. Half effort does not produce half results, it produces no results. Work, continuous work and hard work, is the only way to accomplish results that last. Success is dependent on effort. Striving to success without hard work is like trying to harvest where you haven't planted.

Friday, January 14, 2011

Pearls of wisdom 288

1. To repent from a sin is a necessary obligation -- but to prevent oneself from sin is even more so.

2. Showing patience in adversity is difficult -- but safe guarding the fruits of patience is even more so.

3. The changing of the times is always strange -- but being heedless throughout them is even more so.

4. The unfolding of your affairs is always imminent -- but the arrival of death is even more so.

5. Shyness and modesty of men is an excellent virtue -- but the shyness and modesty of women is even more so.

6. Repentance of an old man is a wonderful thing -- but that of the youth is even more so.

7. The generosity of the prince is an excellent affair -- but that of a peasant is even more so.

8. The sin of the youth is a grave thing indeed -- but that committed by an old man is even more so.

9. The fools indulgence in petty worldliness is an evil thing -- but the indulgence of the learned is even more so.

10. Laziness of the common folk in worshiping their Lord is a grave matter -- but that same laziness from the teachers and students of Sacred knowledge is even more so.

11. The arrogance of wealthy is something to be detested -- but that shown by the poor is even more so. [Above quotes by Abu Bakr radi Allah anhu]

Tuesday, January 11, 2011


Ayahs of the Day:
By the night when it covers, and the day when it comes to light, and the creation of male and female, your striving is surely diverse. As for those who are generous and conscientious trusting in the happy end, We will facilitate ease for them. As for those who are stingy and complacent repudiating the happy end, We will facilitate hardship for them, and their wealth won't help them when they fall. [92: 1 to 11]

Hadith of the Day:
All of you are shepherds, each of you is responsible for his flock. [Bukhari & Muslim]

Wise Quote of the Day:
Beware of Allah, O believers, and fear His punishment. And ward off His punishment by performing what He has obligated and abstaining from what is in disobedience to Him, and do the things that bring you closer to Him, and exhort all of your efforts (for that goal). [Al-Tabari]

Guidance of the Day:
Do not go to bed mad: When you make the decision to never go to bed mad, it helps you see the innocence in your own behavior and in that of your family members. It keeps the channels of communications open. It reminds you that you are a family and despite your problems and disagreements, you love, need, and treasure each other. The decision that it's never a good idea to go to bed mad is a built-in reset button that protects your family from stress, hostility, and resentment.

Perhaps it's easier to see the importance of such a policy in its absence. Without a family policy such as this, arguments and anger are open-ended. No one will have created a boundary, a set of rules that protect your family from extended unnecessary anger. Without a rule to suggest otherwise, family members can hold on to their anger and justify doing so. This policy ensures that ninety-nine times out of a hundred, we'll wake up the next morning with love in our hearts and with an attitude of "This is a new day."

I hope that you'll give this strategy a fair try. It's certainly not always easy, and you probably won't bat 100 percent, but it's well worth the effort. Remember, life is short. Nothing is so important that it's worth ruining your day, nor anything so significant that it's worth going to bed mad. Have a nice sleep. [Carlson, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff--with your family]

Food for Thought:
While faith makes all things possible, it is love that makes all things easy. Love is the greatest constraining power in the world. Tell me what you love, and I will tell you what your are. The man who loves needs no law to impel him to action. This works on both sides of the moral line. The man who loves right and righteousness will do right, law or no law, while the man who loves wrong will do wrong in spite of all law.

Thursday, January 06, 2011

Pearls of wisdom 287

1. Be mindful of God by obeying Him, and obey God by being mindful of Him.

2. Restrain your hand that it never sheds the blood of a Muslim.

3. Restrain your stomach that it never consumes their wealth.

4. Restrain your tongue that it is never defiled by transgressing against their honor.

5. It is Jihad which lays down the last brick of Imaan.

6. Rein in your tongue from complaining about others, and you will be granted a life of happiness.

7. The reward for every virtue has it's measure, yet the reward for patience has no measure.

8. The thankful believer is closest to well being.

9. Your fear of Allah is commensurate of what you know of Him, and your lack of fear regarding Him is commensurate with your ignorance of Him.

10. You are determined to lose yourself in the baggage of this world, while the world is equally determined to remove you from itself. [Above quotes by Abu Bakr radi Allah anhu]

Tuesday, January 04, 2011


Ayahs of the Day:
By the sun and its brilliance, and the moon, following it, and the day, revealing it, and the night concealing it; by the sky and its construction, and the earth and its extension; by the self and its balance, and its inspiration with its depravity and its conscience: whoever purifies it is triumphant, and whoever corrupts it is a failure. [91: 1 to 10]

Hadith of the Day:
If the son of Adam possessed a valley of gold he would want to have two valleys, yet his mouth will only be filled by earth. Allah turns toward those who turn to Him in repentance. [Bukhari & Muslim]

Wise Quote of the Day:
Absorption in the worldly affairs breeds darkness in the heart, and the absorption in the affairs of the Hereafter enkindles light in the heart. [Osthman radi Allah anhu]

Guidance of the Day:
Don't go to bed mad: The idea is that, despite the fact that all families have their share of problems and issues to contend with, nothing is so bad that it's worth going to bed mad over. What this strategy ensures is that, regardless of what's happening, who's to blame, or how mad you or someone else in your family happens to be, there is a set cap or limit to your anger, at which time everyone in the family agrees it's time to let go, forgive, apologize, and start over. No exceptions. This limit is bedtime.

When you have an absolute policy that no one goes to bed mad, it helps you remember that love and forgiveness are never far away. It encourages you to bend a little, to be the first to reach out and open the dialogue, offer a genuine hug, and keep your heart open. When you make the decision to never go to bed mad, it helps you see the innocence in your own behavior and in that of your family members. [Carlson, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff -- with your family]

Food for Thought:
No pleasure philosophy, no sensuality, no place nor power, no material success can for a moment give such inner satisfaction as the sense of living for good purpose. Men cannot for long live hopefully unless they are embarked upon some great unifying enterprise, one for which they may pledge their lives, their fortunes and their honor.